If you’ve ever dreamed of writing a book, starting a podcast, launching a business, or just putting your heart out there in any way… but stopped yourself because you were scared of what other people might think—I get it. This was one of the hardest hurdles for me to move through. I say that from personal experience. I’ve written books. I’ve hosted a podcast. I’ve built a business. And still—this fear came up every single time.

So if it’s coming up for you, that’s not silly or weak. It actually makes total sense from a very deep place (more on that below). But in this blog post, I want to help you finally move through it. Here are five reframes to help you stop worrying what others think—and start sharing your voice and message in the world. 💛

How to Stop Worrying What Others Think

The first thing I want to share is, if you’re struggling with what others may think of you, understand that this fear is completely normal and natural. Historically, our survival depended on being part of the group. If the tribe didn’t like you, you could literally be left out in the wild, fending for yourself. So this primal wiring still exists. It’s why being “liked” on social media can feel so safe, an putting yourself out there can feel so disregulating—even when nothing dangerous is actually happening.

So you’re not wrong to feel afraid. But that fear is just a relic from a different era. Your soul knows you’re ready to move through it—and that’s why it’s showing up now. You’re ready to shift this. You’re strong enough to move forward even with it. Here’s how…

Reframe #1: Most People Aren’t Thinking About You (In the Best Way)

This one might sound harsh at first—but I promise, it’s freeing. It’s a GOOD thing.

The people you’re so worried about judging you? They’re probably not thinking thinking about you nearly as much as you fear they are. Not because they don’t care—but because they’re wrapped up in their own lives… just like you are.

Think about it. You’ve got dinner to make, emails to answer, holidays to plan, kids to take care of. You might see a post online and have a thought—but then you move on. So does everyone else. Even if someone does have a reaction to what you post, it’s likely 10 seconds long. And that means…

Reframe #2: No One’s 10-Second Opinion Is Worth a 10-Year Dream

Let this one sink in. You are not going to give up your dream—your book, your podcast, your message—just because someone somewhere might have a fleeting thought about it. Their thought will pass, usually in about 10 seconds. But your dream? That stays with you, maybe even for a lifetime.

If this resonates, please know, I’ve been there. I used to wake up early before my corporate job to post my blog, then stare at the screen waiting for someone—anyone—to ‘like’ it on social media. I just didn’t want to feel that awkward silence, that imagined judgment. But you know what?

I sat with the discomfort. I knew it was better to take a shot at my dreams than to let someone’s 10-second scroll hold me back. And that’s why now I have hundreds of blog posts, podcast episodes, YouTube videos, and books. I’ve seen firsthand what happens when you don’t let 10 seconds of someone else’s opinion outweigh your dream.

What dream have YOU been sidelining for someone else’s 10 seconds? It’s time to let their moment go—so you can claim yours.

Reframe #3: This Is Your Platform—They Can Create Theirs

You are allowed to write your book. You are allowed to start your business. You are allowed to speak your truth. That doesn’t mean everyone has to agree with it—and that’s okay. They’re welcome to start their own podcast, write their own article, launch their own business if they feel called.

This was an incredibly freeing realization for me. I used to worry so much about how people would interpret my opinions and whether my beliefs would clash with theirs. Then I realized: they are completely free to create their own platforms if they wanted to share THEIR opinions.

This is your platform. It’s a space for your voice. That doesn’t mean you have to speak for everyone. It means you’re honoring what’s in your heart—and giving others permission to do the same.

Reframe #4: Only Take Advice from People Living a Life You Admire

If you wouldn’t want to switch places with someone—don’t take their advice. Truly. If someone doesn’t have the kind of relationship, career, mindset, or life you want… they’re probably not the one to advise you on how to build yours.

A lot of people will try to protect you. Some will project their own fears. Some may even mean well—but that doesn’t mean they’re right. I always come back to this: You are the keeper of your own mind. You get to decide what advice, beliefs, and energy you allow in. Be intentional about who you listen to. If someone tries to talk you out of your dream, consider if you’re willing to trade your dream for their life. If not, keep going.

Reframe #5: No One Ahead of You Will Criticize You

The people doing the thing you want to do? They won’t mock you—they’ll respect you.

Every author remembers what it felt like to write their first chapter. Every entrepreneur knows the vulnerability of posting that first offer. Every creator remembers that shaky “Is anyone even listening?” feeling.

And so, when they see someone new trying, they admire the bravery. The only people who criticize are the ones not doing the thing themselves. Because if they were, they’d know how much courage it takes—and they’d never tear it down.

So anytime you feel afraid, remind yourself: The people ahead of me are rooting for me.

Final Thought: Your Fear is a Sign You’re Ready

Here’s what I believe: If this fear is showing up for you right now, it’s not a sign to stop—it’s a sign you’re ready. Your soul knows it’s time to grow through this, to stop letting it rule your decisions, and to step into the version of you who shares freely, bravely, and with joy.

I went from the girl anxiously waiting for one like on her blog post to a woman who’s now written a book, launched a podcast, and built a business around her voice and message. And if I can, you absolutely can, too. You don’t need to be fearless—you just need to be willing.

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Let me know in the comments which reframe is most supportive to you! 💫🎤