When you’re pursuing a major goal, there comes a point in the journey when things feel HARD. This article offers a reframe to take the INTENSITY out of the hard stuff, reminding you of you resilience. Keep reading for for a reminder of how powerful, capable, and unstoppable you are—even (and especially) in facing the challenges.

P.S. Prefer to listen? Check out Episode 48 of the Bright Life Podcast: Not Making the Hard Wrong.

How to Increase Your Resilience

You know those times when things get tough, when you’re facing challenges that seem insurmountable? I’ve been thinking about how we often label them as “wrong” or something to avoid. But what if we shift that perspective?

Don’t Make the Hard Wrong

Imagine this: You’re on a journey towards a goal—it could be a health target, a personal relationship you’re working on, or a new business venture you’ve set your sights on. Let’s face it; it’s not always smooth sailing. What if, instead of seeing the difficulty as a problem, we just embraced it as part of the journey?

I recently came across something Glennon Doyle said that really struck a chord with me:

“You can do hard things.”

It sounds simple, but think about it. What if we gave ourselves permission to accept the hardness—to acknowledge that it’s OK for things to be tough sometimes? It’s almost like changing the rules of the game.

When we don’t label the hard parts as wrong, something shifts. The resistance, the tension that usually comes with challenges—they start to lose their grip on us. It’s hard, and it’s OK that it’s hard. There is nothing to fix. It’s just hard to do important things.

You Can Handle Any Emotion

Remember those times when you faced something new, something that made you uncomfortable? It wasn’t just the action itself that got to you; it was the feelings of fear, discomfort, and uncertainty. What if we realized that we have the power to handle those feelings? What if we understood that discomfort is not the enemy?

It Burns Because You’re Stretching

Here’s another thought: when you’re in the process of up-leveling your life—be it in your health, relationships, business, or personal growth—you’re reaching up. And reaching up is bound to feel uncomfortable at times. But guess what? That’s not a bad thing. It’s not a sign that you’re doing something wrong. It’s a sign that you’re stretching.

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So, the next time you’re facing a challenge, I want you to try something. I want you to tell yourself that it’s OK for it to be hard. By not making the hard wrong, you’re giving yourself permission to face it head-on, to navigate it without the added weight of judgment. You allow yourself to be brave, even in the face of fear.

Embrace the discomfort. Embrace the challenge. And most importantly, embrace your own resilience. Because you have the power within you to overcome anything that comes your way. Those hard moments? They’re not roadblocks—they’re stepping stones to your greatness.

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P.S. More on this topic: Qualify Yourself (You Are Worthy Already) and REFRAMING: Ask This One Question to Overcome Fear.