If there’s an area where you feel like you’re failing, today’s pep talk offers a new perspective.

At one point early in my entrepreneurship journey, I was frustrated because I wasn’t seeing the success I was working so hard for. It seemed like no matter what I did, I just couldn’t get the hang of it. And then, one day, a new view popped into my mind: maybe traditional success was never the PURPOSE of the endeavor to begin with.

Maybe… just maybe… it was how I was growing (and how you are, too). How you’re showing up. What you’re LEARNING. Who you’re BECOMING. Keep reading for whenever you feel like you’re pushing, forcing, or failing—and need a pep talk that you might be right on track or closer than you think.

P.S. Prefer to listen? Check out Episode 43 of the Bright Life Podcast: Pep Talk for When You Feel Like You’re Pushing, Failing, or Forcing.

Pep Talk for Hard Days: Things to Remember

Rewriting your Definition of Success

When we embark on a new venture, whether it’s a business, a creative project, a relationship, or a personal goal, it’s natural to set certain expectations of what success should look like. We create visions of impressive numbers, accomplishments, and accolades, believing that these markers define our journey’s success. However, it’s essential to recognize that these preconceived notions can sometimes blind us to the true value of the experience.

Think back to a time when you faced challenges, uncertainties, or moments of self-doubt. Instead of seeing these instances as failures, consider whether they might have held hidden lessons and opportunities for growth. Often, success isn’t about reaching a particular destination; it’s about who you become in the process. Every step you take, every challenge you overcome, and every new experience you embrace contributes to your evolution.

Choosing a New Definition

If you find yourself struggling with a project or goal that doesn’t seem to be aligning with your original vision of success, shift your perspective. Take a step back and ask yourself: What am I learning? How am I growing? How is this experience shaping me into a better version of myself? These questions help you focus on the process rather than fixating solely on the outcome.

Instead of waiting for the big breakthrough or the grand achievement, learn to celebrate the small victories along the way. Each step you take, every moment of courage, every attempt to step out of your comfort zone—these are all accomplishments worth acknowledging. By celebrating your daily efforts, you cultivate a mindset of gratitude and empowerment, reinforcing your commitment to the journey.

Allowing a Bigger Purpose

One of the most liberating actions you can take is letting go of rigid expectations. Allow room for flexibility and adaptation as your journey unfolds. Embrace the idea that success can manifest in various forms, and sometimes detours and unexpected turns lead to the most beautiful destinations.

Whether you’re pushing through challenges, forcing outcomes, or grappling with perceived failures, take a moment to pause and reflect on the growth you’re experiencing. Embrace the process, celebrate every step forward, and be open to the magic that arises when you surrender to the flow of life.

Success isn’t just about reaching a destination—it’s about who you become on the journey. And you’re becoming a wiser, more resilient, warrior version of yourself. 💛

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P.S. More on this topic: DETACHING: The Magic of Surrender and Self-Care Practices for When the World Feels Like a Lot.